Kaleidoscope Counselling
Changing the pattern of your life
About my practice
A Therapeutic Setting to Serve You
It takes huge effort and courage to have sometimes difficult and uncomfortable conversations. Based in the Surrey Hills, I offer face to face therapy in a tranquil, private and confidential space at either the Eves in Farnham or Godalming. Alternatively, if you prefer, we can schedule Zoom sessions whereby you can remain in the comfort and security of your home. It may be you'd rather 'talk and walk' in which case the stunning countryside awaits.
Either way, the choice is yours.
Getting Started
As part of an initial assessment, we will explore the ways in which you may like to access therapy. We will also consider the type and
length dependent upon your needs and tailor our approach to accommodate your best interests and availability.
As a member of the professional governing body the BACP, I abide by their ethical guidelines to support your safety and confidentiality.
I am professionally insured.
Sessions are £85 for individuals, £150 for couples or families and last 50 minutes.
A Practice Founded on a Pluralistic Approach
This means we will work in a way suited to you. As an integrative counsellor I draw upon humanistic, psychodynamic, CBT, existential and contemporary theories.
A love of learning means I remain research invigorated, ensuring I continue to work at the cutting edge of psychotherapeutic practice.
Most importantly you will be seen, heard and valued.
Experience
I work with a range of complex and less complex issues within a variety of different therapeutic settings such as offering long term therapy at a London Women's Centre as well as both short and long term counselling for a youth and young adult charity.
There is no hierarchy of human suffering within my practice. You may be a senior manager struggling with the loneliness of your role, a menopausal mum grieving for university bound children or the survivor of abuse suffering in silence.
Every client presents uniquely and as such is approached accordingly.
About Mental Health
One in four of us is affected by our mental health. Maybe it’s you, a family member, a friend or colleague?
It is said depression doesn’t discriminate against those it inflicts but I challenge this. Developments in neuroscience and associated disciplines evidence how our embryonic and early life experiences impact on our ability to thrive.
We tend to seek therapeutic help when we are angry, anxious, sad, lost, lonely, uncertain or confused
My Ethos
More than most professions, psychotherapy appears to be shrouded in mystery and underpinned by a multitude of interventions to support the healing process. Please rest assured I cannot read minds, nor do I presume to know you better than you know yourself.
The co-creation of our relationship is integral to the work ahead. The more real we are together the greater the probability for a positive therapeutic outcome.
I am qualified as a personal trainer and sports massage therapist. I would sometimes say to clients “Hiring a personal trainer doesn’t mean you’re going to get fit, it's doing the work that counts”. In many ways, the same could be said of the therapeutic relationship,
Collaboration and education lie at the heart of my practice.
About Me
My Background
The life I live and the choices I've made all lend themselves to my therapeutic approach.
As a forces’ child I was picked up and put down more times than I care to remember. By the time I attended college I had been through 10 different schools. I learnt early on how to ‘run with the foxes, and hunt with the hounds’ as a means of surviving new environments. Whilst it suited me to live this way with endings melting into exciting new beginnings, it became harder to adjust the older I became.
Knowing what I know now, I realise I had become adept at ‘creative adjustments’ the mechanisms we all deploy as a strategy for coping with the challenges of living. If our adjustments become too far removed from who we authentically are, this can lead to internal conflict, creating both anxiety and depression.
A background in business, managing many different teams enables me to appreciate how important it is for individuals to be seen, heard and valued.
Everyone has something to offer. Everyone matters.
Your Body Keeps the Score
Trauma can manifest itself within the body, be it a frozen shoulder, auto-immunity disease, panic attacks or sleepless nights. The body keeps the score. I work in a trauma informed way meaning we explore what happened to you rather than attaching a label.
Also, if our early life, care-giving relationships leave much to be desired this can impact on our ability to form secure relationships in the future.
Identifying unhelpful patterns in terms of how we behave and interact can facilitate change in order to create a more meaningful relationship with ourselves and others.
Whilst we can only ever be the agent of our own change we have choices about who and how we are in relation to those around us.
If you are reading this as a potential client, please know you are already making a positive choice about your life moving forward.
As your potential therapist, please know I care.
Professional Training
Qualifications
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First Class BA Honours degree in Integrative Counselling, Greenwich University
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Registered member of British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP)
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Msc in Attachment Studies focusing on child and adult attachment, parenting and family functioning,
Continuing Professional Development Courses
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Dialectical Behaviour Therapy
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Motivational Interviewing and Solution Focused Brief Therapy
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Making Anger Your Friend
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An Introduction to the Empowerment model - Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Centre
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Suicide Prevention Education
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Counselling Young Children (4-12)
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Drugs Awareness
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Understanding Migration
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Understanding and Responding to Autism
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Working with Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse
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Trauma Conference 2020 - Trauma Foundation and Dr Bessel van der Kolk
Research
I have conducted literature reviews into:
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Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversity (GSRD)
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Colour Blindness and White Privilege
Therapy Can Help With:
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loss or bereavement
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feelings of stress or anxiety
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loss of confidence or self-esteem
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low mood and depression
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experiencing trauma
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family conflicts
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anger management
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exploring destructive relationships
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difficulties relating to sexuality
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physical or emotional abuse
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problems at work
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child related concerns
Schedule a Session
To book an appointment please email or telephone Denise
07767 782289